There is a meme floating around the net that says something like: ” The very first reactive thought you have is conditioning and the 2nd is the new you trying to break that old conditioning. Therefore, when you hear that old crusty bird saying nasty stuff because you are having a judgemental moment, follow it with a correction.
Voice thought #1 “Omg! Why is she dancing soo sexy, boys will think she’s easy.”
Voice thought #2 “She can dance however she wants, what others think is their issue, not hers!”
Correct every negative with a positive. This is how we build new thoughts and change taught behavior!